5 tips from Dr Ross Greene for parenting and teaching children and teens

Dr Ross Greene presented his Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) training in Perth for a second time thanks to our friends at The Kidd Clinic.  

Kids do well, if they can

The core theme of Dr Greene’s model is that “kids do well if they can”.  As Dr Greene explains: “this is the belief that “if this kid could do well, the kid would be doing well, and if the kid isn’t doing well – something must be getting in their way”.  

Meeting a child where they are at

With over 600 participants in attendance and many more educators this year, the future is looking brighter for our young people in school.  During one of his lunch breaks, Dr Greene kindly filmed an interview with Associate Principal Debbie Hawthorn from the School of Special Educational Needs: Disability. 

This video will become available to state education staff to help in shifting lenses from focusing on behaviour and being reactive to collaboratively meeting a child where they are at. 

Dr Theresa Kidd has kindly shared five of Dr Greene’s main tips for parenting and teaching children and adolescents were:

1. Solve problems collaboratively, not unilaterally

It’s not your job to know what’s causing the challenging behaviours; it’s your job to know how to find out. “Don’t hypothesise,” but “Ask your child what is getting in the way.”

Your child’s voice matters; treat them as a partner for developing potential solutions. It’s important to let them feel heard.

2. Don't be late

Solve the problems proactively, not reactively. Don’t try to intervene in the heat of the moment.

Once a child is spinning out of control, putting them in a calming corner or asking them, ‘What’s the colour of your emotion?’ isn’t helpful.  Instead, anticipate problems as you do in your daily life.

Crisis prevention begins way before de-escalation, and 99% of what you likely need to be doing can be planned and proactive.

If you identify two pieces of information — what your child’s unsolved problems are and what skills are needed to solve them — you can address their frustrations proactively.

3. Focus on equity, not equality

“Equality means treating every child the same. Equity means meeting kids where they are,” says Dr Greene.

Just as teachers use differentiated instruction based on each student’s needs, your goal is to ensure your child gets what they need based on who they are.

4. Apply Plan B

Plan B refers to Dr Greene’s collaborative, empathetic problem-solving model, which is aimed at helping children and caregivers hear each other’s concerns and work toward realistic and mutually satisfactory solutions. It begins with gathering information from the child about what is making it hard for them to meet a particular expectation, continues with caregivers or teachers articulating why the expectation must be met, and concludes with a solution that addresses the concerns of both parties. 

5. Use the ASUP

The Assessment of Skills & Unsolved Problems (ASUP) is intended as a discussion guide to identify specific skills and unsolved problems pertaining to your child.  

To learn more about Dr. Greene’s Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) model for managing challenging behaviours, access Lives in the Balance, the non-profit founded by Greene to provide guidance, materials, and resources to parents, educators, and clinicians.

If you attended the training but are wanting support to implement the model then you can book in with The Kidd Clinic for one of their CPS Consultation Packs (available to parents and teachers).

Text reads: Collaborative and Proactive Solutions Consultation Sessions. If you loved the CPS training but are feeling unsure about how to put the skills learnt into practice then our team are here to help! We have several clinicians who are available to work with you to complete the ASUP and support you in Plan B implementation. We currently provide this service to educators, parents, carers and therpaists (online or in person). Book your CPS 2 or 4 session pack admin@kiddclinic.com.au with the logo for The Kidd Clinic.

The Kidd Clinic

North Perth & Fremantle

The Kidd Clinic has a range of offerings to meet the needs of children and adolescents, and the people that support them, including family members, health professionals, educators and support workers.

Their clinicians are experienced in adapting individual therapy to focus on engagement and rapport building to build a strong therapeutic relationship. They also offer interest based groups for social connection.

The Kidd Clinic recognise that school can be a minefield many children. They often advocate for individualised accommodations at school and have experience in facilitating Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) sessions with educators and students.  For parents they offer ongoing parent support sessions, one-off Problem Solving Sessions (PSS), support with CPS implementation, on-demand online training and parent groups.

Support for parents

For parents we offer ongoing parent support sessions, one-off Problem Solving Sessions (PSS), support with CPS implementation, and parent groups. 

Training and Workshops

We have an online workshop for parents coming up in June with a focus on education and self-care for parents Online PDA Insights: Strategies for Success in Schools & Beyond | Humanitix 

We provide training for educators on how to support PDA-ers at school and to address School Can’t related concerns. The Kidd Clinic is an approved provider under the Department of Education professional learning panel. This means that government schools across WA can access our training via ProLearn. Enquiries about this or other training needs can be directed to training@kiddclinic.com.au

We have on demand training on PDA for parents, educators, health professionals and support workers available here https://vimeo.com/user105488331 

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